A Story From My Childhood

Ladykylie
8 min readApr 3, 2023

Like many of you, I grew up in a single-parent household.

When I was very young, I already know what a divorce is — because except my own parents were separated, among friends, there were always a few parents of friends who talked about divorce or were in the process of divorce, or divorced long before my friends understand what that is.

But this did not destroy my dream of having a happy family and a happy marriage: in fact, I see there are many happy families, where the husband and wife support each other, children grow up happily and they would be often having family day, and goes on family trip once or twice a year.

I wish I could be this happy woman, and all I want is the basics.

It might have something to do with family roles: I have two younger siblings. As the oldest sister, I have been caring for both my little sisters since I was less than 10 years old. When I was about 24, I knew that in the “future” I would want a family with two kids (preferably a boy and a girl). However, my siblings have no fantasy about getting married at all, nor do they want to have children.

As I mentioned above, divorce is really common. The main reason is not that “this generation cannot tolerance any hardship” as the baby boomers said, but because women in the past had neither jobs nor financial resources…

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Ladykylie
Ladykylie

Written by Ladykylie

Articles mainly in Cantonese, sometime English or German, about Hongkong politic or life in Germany. 非華裔香港人。文章以粤語及正體中文為主,偶有英語或德語。主要寫香港政治歷史,有時寫語文研究/天文/德國生活。

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